Mike Coffey, 34

Mike Coffey was a loving, devoted father to his only child, Kaitlyn. He will be missed and loved forever by his family and friends. Mike always assisted those in need no matter the day or time; he was someone you could count on! Mike knew how to make you laugh or smile no matter what the situation.
Mike we love you and wish you were here always! xoxo

Dear Mike,
You were the best Daddy EVER. You were loving, kind and generous. Funny, proud, stubborn and forgiving. It brings us some comfort knowing that you are watching over us. God bless you Mike.

To the person(s) who took his life: Please come forward.

Any updates?

mikey was one wonderfull guy who allways put a smile on my face. he allways knew the right thing to say. he helped lots of people . it did not matter day or night he be there .i know he was there for me ill miss you and ill never forget you . people who knew mikey would agree we all got cheated especially his baby girl he loved so dear im sorry for his family and my prayers go out to them all ,he will be missed and allways loved bye me . love ya mikey

My dad was the best father a child could ever have! He had a wonderful personality. I'll never forget the the time he took me on my first motorcycle ride to one of his friend's house. Now I feel so bad that I never got to really spend enough time with him because I was always asking if I could have a sleep-over. I did that because I never thought my dad was going to be out of my life so soon.I will always love and miss and will always be his little oogie!

I love you and miss you so much
You will always be missed and NEVER forgotten....

My little bro Mikey, you are so missed & loved by all. Never does a day go by without me thinking of you. I wear your raybans everyday & still sleep with your sweatshirt. Thanks Jaine:-) Kaitlyn, Seth, Tiana & Momma Char miss you so much.!. we love you. Mikey I know your somewhere watching over all of us. Thank you for being you! as my tattoo says "FOREVER AND A DAY"! MUAH

No matter how much I'm not with you, you'll always be in my heart.You were more than a dad...You were the light in the dark.You were the other half to my heart.You were my life.I looked up to you.You were an amazing father who loved his only child.You gave up your life to not be with me.You'll always be my dad and I'll always love you no matter how low or high the standards.
Love, KitKat

I miss you sooo much Kaitlyn....your dad was the LOVE of my life and will always be in my heart. there is not a day that goes by that i dont think of you and your dad.

I love you Kit Kat.

I cannot believe 3 years has gone by since we lost you Mike:( YOUR Kit Kat is such an amazing young lady; you would be so proud of her! I know you are with her every day and love when you make your presence known. I hope you are aware of how much you are loved and missed.

If only I had the rest of the pictures and tools of my dads. Not a day goes by without me thinks of them. :'( I know my dad would've wanted ME and MY family to have them... <3 u daddy. I hopefully never disappoint you. Straight A's here I come! lol

I loved my dad. More than anything in this whole entire world! One thing I wish I had though was all of the photos and all of his tools I didn't get. I know "MY" dad would want "ME" to have them and not a bunch of other people. So yeah. I loved and still do love my dad. He loved me more than ANYONE and I loved him more than anyone.One day we will reunite. So yess. Love you daddy your one and only-OOGie <3

Kaitlyn, your dad reminds me of many of my friends. They supported their friends and more importantly their family. It saddens me that his tools aren’t there for you. I hope you can resolve this and may your father Rest In Peace.

Thank you [box bob] I just wished Janie had not have sold anything behind my family's back. That really hurt me. (Thanks Janie :/ ) I know we all make mistakes and nobody's perfect but that was a BIG mistake even for her. I do however see that I only got 3 shirts, my old pj's, a calender, and a few other things. I just want Janie to know that my dad, Mike Leroy Coffey would be upset to know that she had sold everything just for profit. But I hope that everyone who got something from that garage sale keeps my dad's belongings safe and close to them. I talk to my daddy everyday and pray that he is watching over everyone (I) love. One other thing, I am SO happy that nobody other than me gets to have the remains of him. I'm not trying to sound selfish but he's MY dad and I have HIS genes in me. So yes, thank you again [box bob].

Kaitlyn, you seem to have a good head on your shoulders, and like you said, your father's genes. Enjoy the few items you were able to retain. Keep his memory alive with your attitude.

Like I said, I never met your father, but his picture reminds me of many of my friends that cherish their kids as you say that Mike did. Stay on the high road, your father will rest in peace.

Hey Kaitlyn your DADS STUFF has been at your AUNT'S house since january 2010........Have a AWESOME life.

Really!? My dad's tools and ALL of his stuff from the garage are at my aunt's house. Yeah I don't think so. . . YOU made those choices. YOU sold my dad's stuff! So don't flatter yourself. Yeah so janie just by you saying that my dad was the "love of your life" is a bunch of stupid crap you made up so you can cover your guilt and make everyone think your so innocent. But in reality, you are heartless. You did not have any right what so ever to sell any of that stuff. Yes I used to love you dearly but you blew it.

And let me ask you something. If you lost your dad at 9 years old and you couldn't a single thing about it how would you feel? And then when you would have to be pulled out of school not knowing what was going on and thinking it was something amazing when it turned out to be that you dad had just died. And all you had was pressure and feeling that you still had a dad. And all the people who actually loved him didn't even know what to do with themselves. Yeah. Janie even to this day, 3 years later. I feel like he is here, on earth. But is that true? No. So yeah think about that.

Ms. Coffey,

If it was important to your dad he would have had a will on file with someone. I understand that you are a young girl but if you want to play grown up be ready for the game.

Show of hands... how many 34 year olds have a will?

I'm just a reader of the HR and not related to any of the posters here, but I hope my kids are never subjected to this.

Note to self: "Make a will"

Trust me Karin. For a 12 year-old like me I'm pretty sure what I want to do with my life and have my cards on the table. By the way it would have been basically impossible for my father to have a will layed out. He was 34. Not 78. His death was unexpected and a true tragety. I don't mean to hurt anyone in any way I just want the (truth) to be told and not all of these rumors. Karin, it has been over 3 years now. And my dad is the only thing that is keeping me alive and happy each and everyday. Now I know who my family is and who I need to "check-up" on. One last thing, what exactly do you mean by "the game"?

Ms. Coffey,

No, see I had my first child at 25 a boy who is now 15 years old, at the time of his birth I had been at my job for 5 years. I stayed at home with him for the 1st year and then went back to work. A few months after going back to work I had to update my medical forms, and my benifactor forms. As I was doing that I got on the computer and wrote up a quick note about what I wanted done with my things and child should I die. I was only 27 and my child was only a year old. One can have a will at anytime and age has nothing to do with it. The game...it what you are doing. You are putting yourself out there in public for anyone to comment on, anyone to voice on, you are playing a very grown up game, with all your 12 years of knowledge. The stuff you speak of is just that stuff you may very well never get anything back. But it was never yours in the first place. It was your dad's stuff and like his choice or not others made a decision about all that stuff. His stuff and where it is or isn't should not effect your life at 12 years old. It sounds like you grew up hearing gossip, who took what and why, and that gossip has influenced your thoughts. See a 12 year old doesn't really care about that stuff...I also know I lost both parents at one time to a drunk driver when I was 10 years old. I didn't care who got the screw driver, or the wrench all I wanted was my stuff. The things that made me happy like turttle, or tiger (the cat) or sunny (the d0g). At 10 the fact that my dad left behind a bunch of stuff didn't mean a thing to me. And I too had it together...I graduated from high school at 16 and college at 20. But I digress, as much as you don't think so...let the old people deal with the stuff, it isn't your fight. Its just left over influence from years of hearing where is his stuff, that and hard feelings. But those are grown folks hard feelings not yours do not burden yourself with those feelings, in the long run it isn't worth it. If the stuff is gone it is gone and if you don't have it it is gone. Be good fly high and keep reaching for those goals you have. Don't let your wings get clipped by all those hard feelings. Good luck.

First and foremost this site allows for people to share memories and thoughts about Mike. Second grief is individual. Third Karin you need to mind your own business and back off.

See AmyG,

This is exactly why I sad that little girl walked into a grown up issue. If you can't handle the smoke stay out of the kitchen! I don't have to back off.

@Karin,
That little girl didn't walk into a grown up issue, she was forced into a grown up issue. I am sorry you lost your parents at a young age, but to tell her how to feel based on your experience is wrong. You are not her. Who are you, the feeling police? Seems more like you did some things that you want to forget or are ashamed to admit. Telling her to get over it is YOUR way of trying to forget or get over what you did. Stop projecting your feelings unto her. She only wanted her dads things, it's all she had left. You don't get to tell everyone how to feel. It's obvious to anyone with a soul that she doesn't want your advice, so yes, back off.

"That little girl" Karin is my niece. Kaitlyn can express herself however she sees fit on this site whenever she wishes. You're right, you don't have to back off....please continue to display your despicable behavior and make even more an ass of yourself!
Ms. Lee....God bless you whoever you are.

A friend of mine ran into this site and has been reading along. He told me about it and I couldn’t believe what I was hearing so I had to see for myself. It truly amazes me that some people could be so hateful and malicious that they would attack a young girl who has lost her father.

So I thought to myself what would make “Grown Women” act like this? I couldn’t think of anything because I am a mother myself and I can’t imagine for one second behaving in such inappropriate ways. I am also not a malicious person so I can’t imagine saying the things that have been said on this forum.

As a responsible, honest, compassionate person I can tell you that this really should be a non-issue. If someone’s parent is passes away and they are the next in kin then ANYTHING that belongs to that person who passed should go to HIS next in kin. Bottom line, right is right.

As for the lady with serious issues who should probably look into a lot of counseling Wills don’t mean a thing in the state of California. He would have had to have a trust set-up. So maybe you should look into this in case something happens to you and your children don’t end up in a similar situation as Kaitlyn…..Seriously can you imagine anyone talking to one of your babies like you have done after losing their parent? Shame on you!

As for the thief that started this entire mess, I am sure glad I don’t know her. In fact I feel for anyone who chooses to get involved with someone of her “caliber”

As for the true victim in this entire situation, you sound like a very bright young lady. You should try and focus on you and making your Daddy proud. I truly believe he is watching out for you every day.

I also encourage you to learn from this situation and realize that just because you’re an adult doesn’t make you smart. In fact I think you are smarter and more mature than certain individuals who have been commenting here. You can also learn from these “women” on how not to behave. Also think about the type of lives these women live, and then ask yourself, “Is this the type of life I want to lead?”

I didn’t think so and I don’t think your Daddy would either. I am sure you know deep down inside that you are much better than that and you deserve an amazing life full of joy and happiness. From just reading your posts I think you are such a strong and bright young lady that one day you will be able to look back at this and think, "Wow I feel really bad that these women didn’t have someone that loved them as much as my Daddy loved me"

Keep up the good work and never let ANYONE try and bring you down to their level!

Dear Stunned,

Well which is it, she is either a young lady ready and willing to get out there on the big bad internet or a little girl that needs protecting? She can't be both!

Dear AmyG,
I didn't matter to me if she was related to you or not. Oh and by the way Ms. Lee I never told her to get over it. I told her that she was being influenced by the grown ups around her. So she isn't in grief over her own loss she is in grief over the loss that the adults in her life have pounded into her head. A little girl of 9 has no idea what the heck a tool is or how to use it. IF you want these items and an ex girl friend took them/has them/ was left with them/ then it is what it is. You have the issue with the stuff not this little girl. I never attacked her and wouldn't all I wrote was that she had to not let you influence her healing and that she had to let the hurt go so why so angry over that? Truth hurt?

@Karin,
How could I influence her? I've never met her. You make no sense, saying she is in grief over the loss the adults have pounded into her head? Ummmm.....I think she is upset that her dad died. It's not the stuff or weather she knows how to use it. It's the fact that it was his, something he held in his hands. I don't get why you are so cold to that. Maybe you should stop trying to minimize the situation. "See a 12 year old doesn't really care about that stuff...." Like I said, who made you the feeling police? You know what ALL 12 year old girls care about when their father's pass away? "it isn't your fight let the old people deal with the stuff." Yea, cause you got rid of it. You know you did the wrong thing. My favorite part is where you tell her not to let her wings get clipped by all those hard feelings. You must mean the feelings you created. If you can't give her love and compassion without injecting your guilty feelings, you should back off. You clipped her wings, and are still holding the scissors.

@Karin,
Why did you say that comment about a will? Just to be mean? That was not nice and further proves my point. You should leave her alone, you don't have good intentions. Even if he had a will, that may not have stopped anyone from selling his stuff anyway.

I have to agree with -karin.

This site is a place to post loving memories of Mike Coffey who was lost his life at the hands of another. Please no not desecrate his life and his memory by berating and bullying the one person he loved the most...his precious daughter. Please allow Mike to rest in peace and Kaitlyn to express her grieve in her own way. She is doing the best she can. If you don't have something nice to say, please don't say anything at all.

Karin:

Obviously, Kaitlyn is still a young girl but that doesn't mean she can't be a lady. For example in your case you may be an older woman but by no means a lady at all. A lady would be someone that has class. By reading the post you post it is obvious that you have zero class.

You are a vicious beast and a predator and you should quit attacking people just because you are so unhappy with yourself, your life, and your accomplishments.

Stop being so hateful and ugly and try and think about the purpose of this site? Do you think it is supposed to be a site where horrific people like you are to come and dictate what type of feelings someone should be having about someone that they have lost?

Can you put your children in Kaitlyn’s situation? Think about how you would react to someone like you writing the things you have to her or about her and completely disregarding her as a human being who is capable of forming her own opinions. I didn’t think so.

Like I said before you need some serious counseling! Maybe you should focus on healing rather than attacking people the way you have on this site.

Ok people I'm done with all this stupid,idiotic drama. My dad is my dad and his stuff was supposed to be sent to me and my family. This site is for the good people who want to leave great stories and memories of my father. And yes I may have started it but at least I stepped in and finished it. I made a mess and I cleaned it. But this does not make up for what a certain individuals said to me an or had done.So yes, I would honestly like it too stop before this "game" gets too rough and really start making indents on this site.
That is all I have to state.

Again, we must ask PLEASE STOP POSTING. Remember that we loved Mike Coffey. We are his family and we are still grieving. The reason that his name appears on this page is because someone TOOK HIS LIFE. This page is for wonderful memories and kind loving thoughts. Not vicious, evil evisceration. Move on to another site and leave us be. Thank you.

OMG this is exactly why kids or people that cannot handle situations should be on a public site. If you can't handle the fire stay out of the kitchen. This little girl was influenced by the adults around her. Sad that they didn't come out and make this very sad situation better but some how found a way to make this situation about the ex who has everything. This was a grown man capable of making desicions for himself...she was the one he choose like it or not. And death and what little someone has that is left behind everyone wants to fight over....that's the sad part of all of this. Its just stuff! But I'm done....I really don't care and I really don't have any more desire to carry on this conversation.

Was up with this ... is none of my business but I also agree with @karin , this is really dumb.

One thing to say....AMF!

Who use to say that all the time??

Dear Mike,
Just wanted to tell you that we're all missing you. You always loved this time of year. Your sweet baby oogie would always make cookies for you & you would take her to see the all the Christmas lights. You were the best Daddy! Well I better go for now. Please continue to watch over oogie (and us) and know that you are Loved and missed every day.
Say hi to Jesus for me.

Love,
Oogie's Ahma

Hey daddy. I know I havent spoken to you in a while. :( Sorry. My life has been really good. I made a BUNCH of friends im going to keep forever. I really want to see your brother. hope I can do that and get it checked of my "to do list". My friends say your in a better place but I say the best place is right here next to me. I remember hoe exstatic i used to be to come and see you. Or how you used to take me to Dunken Donuts every morning before I went to school. i love you daddy. i'll talk to you soon. Bye. *muah*