Christopher Aiken

Christopher Aiken, 38

He just loved life. And those two girls just meant the world to him.
— Donna Aiken, mother
Chris Aiken had remarried in November and became stepfather to twin girls. Samantha and Katie, 15. He had also gone back to college to study history and earn a degree. Aiken loved the ocean, hiking, spending time with his friends and the Buffalo Bills. A memorial service will be held Saturday, Sept. 20, at 9:30 a.m. at Conejo Mountain Memorial Park, 2052 Howard Road, Camarillo.
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108 memories of Christopher

Chris was my cousin. Like often happens, we grew apart as adults and your death, Chris, makes me so sad and want to go back in time. My love to your wife and kids and Uncle Ted. Thanks, Chris, for the memories. I was just looking at that picure of us in front of the Trans Am not too long ago. Love, Melanie

— Melanie
September 13, 2008 at 9:51 p.m.

Chris was such a wonderful, kind person to all. I'm sure he is looking down on all of us now wishing to take away the pain and sorrow we feel while grieving his loss of life. Please save a spot for us in Heaven! He was always so generous to others in need, his wife and daughters and his friends on the volleyball court. He will be remembered by many friends in the Conejo Valley for his smile and cool sense of humor.

— Monica
September 13, 2008 at 11:51 p.m.

Remembering back to the day Chris was born and how much joy he brought to the family that day brings a smile and a measure of comfort to my heart. It was only the first of many days that he brought joy, laughter, kindness, unselfishness and so much more to so many during his almost 39 years. He will be dearly missed. Sweet memories and love are the precious gifts he leaves to all those that knew him.

— Aunt Marianne
September 14, 2008 at 2:38 a.m.

Sitting here thinking back I remember him for the laughter and what a good friend he was to everyone. Heaven has a special place for him. I am so sorry for your loss and he will be missed. I will pray for all of you. (R-H Alumni class of 1989)

— Jen Haenle-VanWycke
September 14, 2008 at 5:45 a.m.

Chris was a great co worker at Adelphia Communications, he was such a good natured guy, even when the office trashed his desk as a joke he took with a grin. I was just thinking about him on Thursday and Friday. My prayers are with his family and friends in this time of deep sadness. He will always be in memories of all that he touched throughout his lifes journey. Peace and Love. -George Riedl, Los Lunas, NM

— George Riedl
September 14, 2008 at 8:20 a.m.

Chris was like a son to me, he brought many a good laugh with his antics alone or with the gang of friends. I will miss his warm smile and encouraging words when needed. He will surely be missed by all who loved him.

Aunt Sue Dormer-Newfane

— sue dormer
September 14, 2008 at 9:06 a.m.

Chris will be missed dearly. He was a great friend to us. He always made sure everyone was taken care of. He was our rock. We will miss everything about him, his wit, his smile, his love of barbecuing, his love of nature, and many more things, too many to list. Our world will not be the same without him.

— Katharine and Michael Graczyk
September 14, 2008 at 10:18 a.m.

I met Chris and his wife Sharon earlier this year when my mother was in the last month of her life, dying from cancer. They were so supportive of all our family, comforting us and feeding us as we spent time with our mom. Chris and Sharon took care of my autistic brother many nights so that my stepdad Mark could spend time with his wife in her last days. Chris's care toward my stepdad touched his heart and helped him in his grief. At my mom's funeral, Chris helped as a pallbearer. At the funeral, Chris hugged me with such comfort and love, even though I had only known him for a month. Although I only knew him for a short time, I saw that Chris was a man of great generosity and kindness, a wonderful husband and father, and a dear, dear friend. I know that he is now with Our Lord in Heaven.

— Connan McElvogue
September 14, 2008 at 12:16 p.m.

Like many regular Metrolink riders we are creatures of habit. Chris was on the platform Friday morning, his usual cheerful self. Standing in the same place waiting for the 7:20 AM to arrive. As usual I said good morning as Penny approached. We chatted about how it was getting cooler and Chris joked it would almost be time for Penny to put on an overcoat. He loved the cooler mornings and said if he could he would wear shorts to work. Always ready with a joke or teasing comment we wished each other a nice weekend and said goodbye. How is it possilbe that this would be the last time I would ever see Chris? I went to the Moorpark station on Saturday and stood on the same spot where we last spoke. I could still see his smile as he boarded the train. It's said that we will remember people for how they made us feel. I'll remember Chris for his ready smile, a genuinely nice person who cheered up my mornings. Chris, you made a difference even to a perfect stranger.

— Theresa Dressler, your Metrokink buddy
September 14, 2008 at 1:08 p.m.

Chris was a rock to all of his friends. He helped us through many tough situations in our lives and was there, especially, during a time when we suffered great loss. We loved playing volleyball together, barbequing and hiking among many, many other activities. We will miss his wisdom, his love of his family and friends, his love of life and his beautiful spirit. Chris was a light in our lives. We love him tremendously, and he will be sorely missed.....

— Lara and Ed Cossentine
September 14, 2008 at 1:35 p.m.

Dear Sharon Aiken-our wonderful friend,

Erich and I loved Chris Aiken. Our greatest memories of times spent with our friends includes Chris-his eternal smile in his eyes, unexpected humor, and unreserved generosity to others. The love you shared completed us and made our world more special. We will take one day at a time with your family. You will never live a day without his love, as we all we carry him with us, and remain at your side.

Thank you Chris for the joy you brought to the world,

Cynde & Erich

— Cynde & Erich
September 14, 2008 at 1:42 p.m.

Chris has a special place in my heart. I will miss him so very very much. He was always such a special person who always had an encouraging word and positive attitude. He had married his wife less than a year ago, his best friend and love of his life and now had two step daughters he loved with all his heart. He had a family he loved so very much. It was so evident seeing them all together, the true spirit of what a family with love is all about. We will all miss him so much. Chris, we love you and will miss you deeply.

— Aunt Debbie Secrist - Gasport, NY
September 14, 2008 at 2:14 p.m.

Chris and I go way back. We both grew up in a little town called Gasport, NY. We spent many days fishing and riding our bikes all over looking for our next big catch. He was a Boy Scout, Golfer, and he loved his Buffalo Bill's. He was a great friend and great fisherman. He would always remind me of that fact when he caught more fish than I did. We continued to be friends throughout high school. You could always find myself, Doug, Chris A, Chris P, Rich W, hanging out together.

After High School we all went our separate ways, but continued to keep in touch. Chris stood up in my wedding with my other high school friends. He will be greatly missed! I know he is watching down on me with a great big smile on his face.

Last night, myself and my two boys went outside to catch some night crawlers. Chris was the one that showed me how to do this when we were kids. He would have been laughing because my seven year old caught more that I did! God Bless your wife your family! Our thoughts and prayers are with you. I love you brother!

Bill Bruning and family

— Bill Bruning
September 14, 2008 at 2:17 p.m.

Chris was the kind of guy everyone loved to be around. He was so warm and welcoming and funny. His love for his wife, family and friends was so evident in everything he did. We will miss his smile and his jokes on the volleyball court. We know Chris is in heaven looking down on us. We love you Chris and we will miss you. We look foward to seeing you again.

— Stacey Beaman and Mark Berry
September 14, 2008 at 2:39 p.m.

I was one of the crew memeber of a ambulance that responded to the accident on that day. I trasported many people that day. I just wanted to say. I'm sorry for your lose.

— Thomas EMS
September 14, 2008 at 3:35 p.m.

Many memories of a truly wonderful guy. My heart is with Sharon, their girls and Chris's family back east. He loved you all so much.

Just a silly fond memory of a man who loved everything in it's place...a prank pulled on him by all his friends at work (Adelphia), the same memory George, Char, Mary and all his crazy cable friends have...when he came back to work after vacation and we'd all contributed the the horrible mess at his workstation, it was B A D, he took it like a man, his great sense of humor in tact!

I, along with many others, already miss him so much. His intelligence, wit, sarcasm, love of family, friends, and football (wink to Christophine cuz you know I never understood your love of sports) comprised a one in a million human.

Chris, your departure left an empty spot in all our hearts that will always ache, we were so fortunate to have been in your circle...go with God, my friend, be at peace and look down on us and laugh out loud when you see us messing up.

We love you...

— Lynne Drake
September 14, 2008 at 4:21 p.m.

Chris was such a special guy & what a sense of humor! I was always Carole-Ann to Chris. We shared so many good times especially in the Adelphia days and we were always there to support each other. A fellow Scorpio, we always shared a special bond and the utmost respect. I was just thinking about him early this week as our birthdays were approaching. My heart goes out to Sharon and the girls...he was so happy. I will miss him dearly....with my deepest sympathy and love.

— Carole Kennedy
September 14, 2008 at 4:23 p.m.

Chris was a wonderful man. I knew Chris from working at Adelphia. Although I didn't work that close with him I did know what a good person he was and well liked by his co-workers. He will be missed. My heart is so sad. My thoughts and prayers are with his family and friends. God Bless!

— Karen Gross
September 14, 2008 at 5:04 p.m.

Chris, you touched our lives in ways you cannot even imagine. The strongest picture I have of you in my heart is the amused smile across your face when we were all just too ridiculous for words. I remember you telling me how to be a step-mom, and the example you set with Katie and Sammie. I remember the look of pure joy on your face on your wedding day. With Sharon, you seemed to find such a gentle peace. Although it breaks our hearts that we will not see you again in this lifetime, your loving example, caring friendship, and sheer magnitude of your quiet personality will be with us forever.

Chris, we treasure the short time we had with you. It wasn't enough.

Love always,
Amy and David

— Amy and David Horton
September 14, 2008 at 5:07 p.m.

Chris was a wonderful person. I worked with him at Adelphia. Although I didn't work closely with him I know he was a special person and well liked by his co-workers. He always was kind to me when I'd go over the the Newbury Park office. He will be missed. My heart is breaking right now. My thoughts and prayers go out to his family and friends. God Bless!

— Karen Gross
September 14, 2008 at 5:17 p.m.

Chris was a warm and caring person. He was always there to greet you with a big smile and a hug. He absolutely loved his life, his family and friends. As you can see, he would do anything for them.

Chris, you will be missed!

— Lacey Andaya
September 14, 2008 at 5:33 p.m.

Sharon, family and friends - I am so sorry for your loss.
Chris had a contageous laugh and his sense of humor was one of a kind. He always had jokes, and took all the mess that the girls at Adelphia threw his way with a smile. (Chris)Whenever I see an episode of MASH, no matter how old the re-run maybe, I think about you my friend...
My thoughts and prayers are with you all in this difficult time. I hope somehow he knows, how many people loved him.

— Jacqueline Yawn
September 14, 2008 at 5:43 p.m.

God Bless you always.

— Rolando
September 14, 2008 at 6:21 p.m.

Chris was my cousin and when we were little we did so much together. I remember the fun we use to have and the trouble we caused especially at Aunt Cheri's house. He was a great person who married a magnificent woman and has two remarkable stepdaughters. He will always hold a special place in my heart! My thoughts and prayers are with all of Chris's friends and family. All my love to the Aiken Family.

— Jennifer Seib
September 14, 2008 at 6:36 p.m.

Your surely going to be missed Chris! You were truly a great cousin! I have so many fond memories of our time spent together. From fishing at night on the Erie canal down from your house, traveling to Niagara Falls more times than I can count, laughing our ass off at the funniest things. I remember also collecting bottle caps when we were kids, Golfing 36 holes just about everytime we went golfing and going to Reids to see how many hotdogs and Hamburgers we could eat after betting to see who would finish the 18th hole the best. Man could we eat alot back then. Arby's was another place we ate alot of. Working for Monkey Wards with Uncle Doug.I remember to this day, when we were kids, when we were building a fort under a tree behind Grandma and Grandpa old Brick house on the Erie canal and we had collected coal from the railroad tracks and tried using that to start a fire. Well we got in to trouble with the incident and ended up being grounded to the porch. Other memories...Thank GOD I was on you team when ever we had chesnut wars and snowball fights. You had some wicked hard-ass iceballs when you got finished packing the snowballs down. I felt sorry for your brothers as well as mine. How about those pick up football games at Grandma's house on Christmas night. Those were fun especially playing through heavy lake effect snow.
I can go on and on with great memories but I would need more space here. Thank you for all the wonderful memories. Thanks for the competitiveness you brought. My prayers and thoughts are with your family and friends in California as well as in New York. You truly made life fun for everyone when you were around. I can see how happy you were with Sharon and the girls and I could see how happy they were with you. You will truly be missed, cousin! God Bless. YOU WILL BE MISSED DEARLY!!!

— Michael Secrist
September 14, 2008 at 8:24 p.m.

My heart aches for his wife, and for his twin step-daughters. Katie and Sammie have baby-sat my kids, and those girls had such respect and love for Chris. When I used to ride the train, Chris was always there in the morning with a ready smile. The world has lost a really decent man.

— N. from Camarillo
September 14, 2008 at 9:01 p.m.

I started at Adelphia as a temp. One day they told me that Friday was my last day. That Friday with about an hour to go, Chris came up to me and said there was another position in his department open. The rest is history. He was an awesome supervisor. He also followed me alll the way to Ontario.He Always looked out for us, and like everyone has said, his sense of humor was one of a kind. When I found out that he had passed,as many I was deeply sadned. My condolences to his family.

— Jose
September 14, 2008 at 9:23 p.m.

Sharon, Katie and Sammie... You all know that I loved Chris so much, and was already missing all of you, since I left California. Chris was an incredible person, and I was more than thrilled when you four became a family. Please know that I am praying really hard for all of you. I love you guys, and just wanted you to know that.

— Eileen Godfrey
September 15, 2008 at 6:56 a.m.

I remember when you were born, you were my first newphew, and I made it a point to remember your birthday (October 24th). To this day, that is the only birthday that I recall so easily. I watched you grow up and later in life you moved to California (from NY). When you found your first love and married Sandy, I was so happy for you. I kept a small heart shaped framed picture of you & Sandy on my dresser for years. When that page had turned, I was saddened but I can truely relate to that course of change that effects our lives. When you found and later married Sharon I was again so happy for you, but this time you became a step dad - what a blessing! Again I totally relate since in my most recent marriage I also became a step dad. My wife Cindy and I always pray God's Blessing on all our families and their Children and loved ones which included you Chris, Sharon and your step daughters. I believe God's covering is on your life as you are now with Him. This Life I believe, is the stepping stone to our eternal life where we can all again be together, for those who embrace Love, share love, and bring happiness in a world full of uncertainties, just as you have Chris. May we all follow your example Chris and also seek the source of Love, which is God Almighty, with all our heart. Sharon,Katie, and Sammie, We pray for the rich blessings of God to overshadow you with His peace, and love, to carry you to the time you are reunited with Chris - A Hope you can believe in!
Love Dave and Cindy

— Dave Griffith
September 15, 2008 at 7:38 a.m.

September 12,2008 God called another Angel Home, Christopher Aiken...
Our heartfelt condolences to his mom,dad, brothers,wife and children and many aunts,uncles and cousins..
Indeed such a tragic loss to this earth as Chris possessed all the wonderful qualities we all strive for..
God bless his family and friends..

— Paula Gagliardi
September 15, 2008 at 8:15 a.m.

Chris was a great co worker at Adelphia Communications, his great sense of humor, quick wit and sarcasm made it extra fun to be around him when there were stressful times at work and I even gave him a nickname Chris Acky-Breaky-heart..I really enjoyed working with him. Chris will not be forgotten by all that knew him..My thoughts and prayers go out to his Family at this difficult time.

— JoAnn Elizondo
September 15, 2008 at 9:17 a.m.


September 15, 2008 at 9:41 a.m.

Christoper was a funny guy and always had a smile or some type of smirk on his face. Chris, "May you rest in peace" Sharon, I will keep your family in my prayers and thoughts. Glod Bless you, the girls & your families!

— Grace Rivas
September 15, 2008 at 10:39 a.m.

When you and Doug moved here to California, we instantly became such close friends. We spent many weekends going to the different beaches along the coast and hunt for shells.
It didn't take you too long to convince me to be a Buffalo Bills fan. And 18 years later, I am still a huge fan. We had great times in New York. People thought I was nuts leaving sunny Southern California for cold Gasport New York. But, your family and friends made it so warm, inviting and fun. My fondest memories are of Christmas' at Grandma Griffith's house, watching you and your brothers and cousins play football in the snow. Going to the Bills games in the freezing cold with mom and dad, and whoever else dared to come with us. All of us covered in winter gear from head to toe, we barely knew who was who. And the family bond fires next to the canal. Those Secrist boys were such a crackup!
Chris, I have learned so much from you. I have always admired how quickly you learned something. You amazed me. You had such a quick wit. You always knew what to say at a moments notice. I can go on and on. Even though we went our separate ways, I am greatful we remained close friends. I will miss you so much. You will always have a special place in my heart forever. My love to Sharon and the girls. May G-D help them in this very painful time.

— Sandy
September 15, 2008 at 10:46 a.m.

Dear Sharon, someone so special can never be forgotten. At a time like this, we are at a loss for words to express our condolence to someone who has lost a loved one. Thinking of You with Sympathy.

— Jackie Garcia
September 15, 2008 at 11:11 a.m.

Chris was such a cheerful and patient man. I remember all those days he would come in to pick up Katie and Sammie at the BGC, he was always so patient waiting for them to say their good-byes to everyone. It was always a delight to see him at the BGC, always so gracious and talkative. His smile was contagious and he made his girls so happy, all of them! It's SO hard to believe that he is really gone--my thoughts and prayers go to his family...his girls...his everything!

— Becky Danahy, BGC
September 15, 2008 at 11:16 a.m.

We did not see each other often, but for some reason it fell right to know that you were around, since there was always a chance that we would run into each other and catch-up. Now, it breaks my heart and brings tears to my eyes to realize that we will never see each other again, especially since I never had a chance to tell you that you were one of the people who helped me get where I am now, with your support and understanding while working at Adelphia. Where ever you are, thank you and our universe will no longer be the same without you.

— Alberto Vazquez-Dzul
September 15, 2008 at 11:27 a.m.

I lost track of Chris for a little while after he left Adelphia. As for many of us, it was sad to see him go. It was sad because Chris was the light in everyone's heart. His sence of humor was the best and in all the business inter-actions and challenges at Adelphia, he always found a way to resolve them. Chris was funny and a straight shooter he told it like it was.

The last time I saw my dear friend was at the entrance of the Catholic Church in Camarillo. He greeted me with that big smile even though, that it was under sad circumstances.

Chris, as you know, my family and I are praying for you and your family (Sharon, Katie and Sammie). We are praying He will welcome you with opened arms. I will also pray that when I go, you will be there at the entrance to welcome me again.

Take care, my brother and friend in Christ.

— Dee Villela
September 15, 2008 at 12:50 p.m.

My thoughts and prayers are with the family. I'm really sorry to see you go way too soon. I really appreciate all the good times we had at Adelphia: softball, golf, cigars and of course football. You were very much loved by many and will never be forgotten. God Bless!

— Jose Abarca
September 15, 2008 at 1:02 p.m.

Sharon, Samantha, Katie,
I enjoyed playing volleyball with Chris and will always consider him part of our small open gym family. Chris always had a smile and was a great positive influence on the court. My deepest sympathy... I and many friends are praying for your comfort and strength. God Bless

— Sean Willis, open volleyball NPFCC
September 15, 2008 at 1:06 p.m.

I lost track of Chris for a little while after he left Adelphia. As for many of us, it was sad to see him go. It was sad because Chris was the light in everyone's heart. His sense of humor was the best and in all the business inter-actions and challenges at Adelphia, he always found a way to resolve them. Chris was funny and a straight shooter he told it like it was.

The last time I saw my dear friend was at the entrance of the Catholic Church in Camarillo. He greeted me with that big smile even though, that it was under sad circumstances.

Chris, as you know, my family and I are praying for you and your family (Sharon, Katie and Sammie). We are praying He will welcome you with opened arms. I will also pray that when I go, you will be there at the entrance to welcome me again.

Take care, my brother and friend in Christ.

Dee Villela

— Dee Villela
September 15, 2008 at 1:12 p.m.

My dear nephew Chris, I, too remember when you graced this world by coming into it , and now you grace it too as you leave. And in-between that much to short of time you gave such caring, patience, hope, love and joy to all who knew you. Some of us were fortunate enough to be your family, others your friends, whom you made feel `like` family. Everything that all these other's have written about you is only part of all our feelings, we could never truly express it all here.

To Donna & Roy you did a superb job, he learned from you all the things that made him the special man he was. You can be nothing but extreamly proud of your son.

To Heath & Shaun, you have had an incrediable role model to shape your life with, when your younger you don't always see things that way, but as you get older and have family's and live's of your own as you do now, then you see.

To Patte, as a Grandma too, I cannot even imagine your pain & loss, my heart hurts for you.

To Sharon, Sammie & Katie, I don't think I can even say to you anything to help you with this horrible, and un-believable pain in your hearts, so I won't try. You only had each other for a short time, your lives together had just begun, we don't know why these things happen, there are no answers, now... I love you, I pray for you.

To my brother Ted & nephew Garrett, I love you both so much.

And to all the rest of the family, the loss of your beloved Chris will be only be made a little easier knowing how very much he was respected ,charished, and loved, he will always be with all of us, he may be gone from our sight but never, ever from our hearts.

~ We Will love you till the day after forever~

— Aunt Mid
September 15, 2008 at 1:19 p.m.

We were cousins, but I felt you were more like a brother. I always enjoyed when all of us kids, now men, would get together. Let the battle of wits begin! Not many could beat you at that game.

I was always afraid of getting into a snowball fight, because I was never on your team. You had a wicked throwing arm, and those damn snowballs that you would dip in water. I was always afraid of getting beamed with your snowballs, but sickly enjoyed it.

I remember coming home from work one night on my bike and it started pouring down rain. You came driving by in your piece of crap Chevy Chevette, and everyone who knew you well knew that you beat the crap out of this car. I know you would laugh if anyone mentioned that car. The point is, you stopped, threw my bike in your car and drove me home. Chris was the type of guy that would be there for you, even if you didn't ask for his help.

I don't think I can remember a time that I didn't see him smile, or crack a joke. Even as kids, when he got into trouble, that smirk would remain fixed on his face. He had a laugh that is memorable, because I can still hear it.

I can't even imagine the pain that your family is feeling right now, but I pray that they find peace once again.

You are loved like my own brother. I will miss you.

— Andrew Secrist
September 15, 2008 at 1:28 p.m.

I met Chris a few times through his wife, Sharon, who is my supervisor. He was really such a nice person. I know how much they meant to one another and this really breaks my heart. Words cannot describe how I feel right now. I am devastated. All I know is that Heaven has gained another angel. Sharon - you and the girls are in my thoughts and prayers. I love you so much and am truly sorry for your loss. Everyone here at work is praying for you and are here to support you. May God bless you and your family.

— Firishta
September 15, 2008 at 2:32 p.m.

Chris was deficiently one of the most special persons I've had the pleasure to call a friend. I met him over 7 yrs ago and saw him transform himself to the man I truly believe he always wanted to be. Even though we were friends for a long time, I really got to know him better over the last two years when he began working at Aramark and stated taking the train.

We rode the train every morning. He got on at Moorpark, and I in Simi Valley. The greeting was always the same, 'Hey Jorge'. I will never forget his huge grin and shake of his head when he would watch me through the window running up the ramp in order to make the train, as I often ran late. As I would sit in the front seat facing him, he would take off his headphones and we would begin our daily conversations until he got the Burbank and he would say good bye.

The last time I rode the train with him was a week before the accident. He knew my schedule was going to be different, so he said to me he got off the train, 'Alright Jorge, I'll see you and I see you' Who knew that would be that last words we would ever exchange.

I'll miss you my friend. I'll see in the train in heaven when my time comes. I'll probably be late, but I know you'll be there smiling when I get there.

— George Ochoa
September 15, 2008 at 3:12 p.m.

Chris was my sisters rock, he meant the world to her. He was her husband, her best friend, he was the greatest dad to her girls, he truely was her soulmate. He brought the joy back into Sharons life and took upon the role of step dad with such admiration for Sammie & Katie. Chris really was a special man!

I remember when we all first met you at Thanksgiving years ago and Sharon introduced you as her "friend". We all knew different, we saw that spark in her eyes that had been missing for years. You made my sister so happy Chris. We will all help her and the girls to stay strong and take care of them just like you would want. You have the most amazing friends that have been there with her day & night, she is so blessed to have them all in her life and they too will help keep her head up high. Thank you Chris for taking such good care of the Sharon and the girls.

We will all miss your kind heart, your sense of humor and the joy you brought to our family. We will never forget you Chris!

We will miss you!
Elizabeth, David, Matthew & Andilyn

— Elizabeth & David
September 15, 2008 at 3:12 p.m.

I meet Chris when I worked at AUS, I have to say that I always looked forward to our daily talks with His calming voice, knowledge of the world and the beauty of the world he often shared with me, made the days better. Most importantly I enjoyed how he shared so Passionately about his wedding and his girls with me. You could hear the love he had for his family in his voice. Heaven gained a great MAN, but we too were blessed that he was able to touch so many lives here on Earth.
My prayers go out to the Aiken family.

— Mary Apodaca
September 15, 2008 at 3:23 p.m.


September 15, 2008 at 5:01 p.m.

I have known Chris for many years now. He was at one time my manager, and from there my friend. I became very good friends with him and Sandy and we spent alot of time together playing Volleyball and hanging out. Chris Always treated me like I was someone Special. I even thought about him as sort of a Big Brother, without the usual beating ups that come along w/ a real brother. When Chris and Sandy moved back to California, I tried to stay in touch as good as one can. life gets busy, time flies by. I am still very close to Sandy and all my love and wishes go out to you(Sandy), Chris' family and his new family. I didn't know you(Sharon and Kids) but I am glad we got to share part of such a wonderful person's life if only for such a short time. Chris was an amazing person and he infected everyone he knew with kindness. God Bless, Never Forgotten. Love always your Lockport Friend, Jen

— Jennifer Luce, Lockport, NY
September 15, 2008 at 5:17 p.m.

I remember when I met Chris when he moved to California. We became good friends and have many years of memories together from hanging out at barbeques to going camping. We also seemed to always end up working together which was so cool. You were so smart "a real thinker". You were a kind soul always cared about everyone around you. We will miss you so much.

Our thoughts and prayers go out to your family, Sharon, Sammie and Katie.

Chris, you will be in all of our hearts forever!

— Michele, Kevin and Mia
September 15, 2008 at 5:23 p.m.

All my Love to You Chris, You will be missed

— J
September 15, 2008 at 5:38 p.m.

I can remember vividly when Chris bounded into my life. Chris was a bubbly, beautiful, sweet little boy with a loving nature and a smile that would melt your heart. He was so charming, so expressive, so caring and helpful - you fell in love with him instantly. And Donna was such a great mother. I can still see him like that today - it's hard to believe it was so many years ago.

As he grew up he had his challenges as all of us did. But he was ever ready with that wonderful sense of humor and that smile - and he didn't stop until he got someone to laugh. I remember as a teenager he'd be cruising the malls with his friends and his brother Heath and they discovered that if they took their lttle brother Shaun with them - magical things happened. Shaun was so funny, so cute and charming that all the girls would come up cooing and ahhing. So instead of lamenting that their little brother 'had to tag along' - they MADE him come so they would attract the girls. And it worked - probably much better than his parents would have preferred!

Chris was lucky in that he was part of a big, warm loving family. He had his Mom and Dad's relationship (my brother Roy and his wonderful wife Donna) to look to as a model and that's what he aspired to. He realized his dream when he met a wonderful women Sharon and her beautiful twin daughters- Sammie and Katie- and they became a family. Chris always loved children and he loved his girls. Chris was so happy - he finally had the life he wanted. He was content. It's good to know he was so happy before he was taken from us way too soon.

Chris had a FULL life- let's celebrate that. He is beloved. He is in our hearts. He will be missed.
....especially by his Aunt Cheri.

— Cheri Aiken
September 15, 2008 at 6:24 p.m.

To Sharon and the girls, my thoughts and prayers go out to you special ladies that had the priviledge of loving Chris. Sharon, one thing I can say to you is that Chris definetely knew how much you loved him. He always looked forward to lunch for two reasons, one to read your note which he always kept very private but once in a while Rita and I knew it was a very, very special one, because he would release a wicked little smile that would remain on his face for a few minutes and second of course to eat.

We shared many stories about each other's family. To me he will always be Mr. Carne Asada Man!!!!!! for being a white boy, he sure knew how to cook carne asada!

Chris I will miss you dearly.

God Bless You

— Rosie Rios
September 15, 2008 at 6:50 p.m.

To Sharon and the girls, we are so sorry for your lose. We all loved Chris so much. He was such a joy to be around. As so many people mentioned, I can't stop picturing that smirk he used to give. Such a sweet face and wonderful personality. He was so smart and funny. Please find comfort in the fact that he is watching over you from Heaven!

— Doug, Trish and Karlee
September 15, 2008 at 6:59 p.m.

When you worked with Chris,It just wasn't work.
Thank you my friend.

Sharon, Katie and Sammie,Our prayers are with

— John & Janelle
September 15, 2008 at 7:30 p.m.

Roy & Donna - My thoughts and prayers are with you, his wife and children during this difficult time. Although I didn't know Chris, it's apparent from what I've read - and knowing the two of you - that he was an amazing man. There is nothing to be said or done that will fill this void for you, but know that your love and memories of him will keep him close.

— Lisa (Graham) Muto
September 16, 2008 at 6:18 a.m.

My prayers are with you and your family! May the peace of God provide comfort for you all during this difficult time.

In His name!

Satise Roddy

— Satise Roddy
September 16, 2008 at 8:05 a.m.

I have many fond memories of Chris..Clifton hill with Amy and Phil. small towns, the prom and crazy teenagers driving to California..Chris was a beautiful person and my heart goes out to his family and wife..May God bless you and help you through this awful time....

— Carla Zona,(las vegas)
September 16, 2008 at 8:22 a.m.

I'll never forget those Christmas's at Grandma's house. You never had any trouble convincing us to go out and play some football in the church parking lot. No matter how cold or how snowy, we were out there having a great time. Even in the snow on that slippery ass blacktop you could outrun any of us.
Your quick wit kept us all on our toes, your brothers and mine. there was nothing better than a night of picking on each other and telling stories of the stupid things we did growing up, it was all good fun.
My prayers go out to Aunt Donna, Uncle Roy, Heath, Shaun, Sharon, Samantha, Katie and all of the other family and friends you had touched the lives of.

You will be missed Chris, We love you.

— Matthew Secrist
September 16, 2008 at 8:51 a.m.

My Condolence to his family. Chris always supportive of everyone around him at Adelphia. He did not judge me for who I am, and I will always remember and cherish that about him. Chris you will be truly missed. God Bless you.

— Mike Eldred
September 16, 2008 at 10:03 a.m.

Hey Chris, this is Chris! I miss you already, but I can only imagine what ruckas you are causing in the heavens above...I will ALWAYS remember your smile and laughter. You always had this grin on your face, and I can just "see" your brain "thinking" whether it be work related or jokester. Chris-just know that "ALL" of us will look after Sharon, Sammie, Katie, and Sandy while you are in heaven. You need not worry, they hold a special place in our hearts and we will continue to care for them as you did. WE WILL NEVER FORGET forever and ever........ The Lapp's

— Chris & Tim Lapp
September 16, 2008 at 10:04 a.m.

When my Mom asked me if I knew an Aiken from Roy-Hart, I said that name sounds familiar. I am a 1984 Roy-Hart graduate and I looked in my yearbook and found Chris who was in the 8th grade in 1984. He looked very familiar. My thoughts and prayers go out to Chris's families on the East and West coast. I am so sorry for your loss. It sounded like Chris was a great guy.

God Bless,

Nancy Arlington Martin

— Nancy Arlington Martin
September 16, 2008 at 10:34 a.m.

Friday was just like any other day at work. We worked, we laughed and we talked. As he did everyday, Chris came to my desk asking me if I brought my lunch. I said no, but I was going to order for pick up. Our lunch was everyday at 1pm, and at 12:55 I was still at my desk taking a call. Chris came over and pointed at his watch, telling me to hurry up and go. He teased and laughed at me when I came back at 1:20, telling him that I couldn't find parking near the restaurant. At 3:30, Chris came over to my desk to say bye and we left each other with 'Have a great weekend, see you on Monday'. But before he left, I told him that he needed a hair cut.

Walking through the doors at work on Monday and seeing his empty chair was a difficult thing to do. I miss him looking over the walls of my cubical to say good morning, I miss our daily talks and daily lunches.

I am so terribly sorry to Sharon and the girls. I know how much he loved all 3 of you. My deepest sympathy to his parents, brothers and family. Chris was a great guy, who loved life, his family, friends and extended a helping hand to anyone in need. He will be forever missed.

— Rita Otkupman
September 16, 2008 at 10:38 a.m.

I met Chris by working at Adelphia. What I do remember of Chris in our Adelphia days is that during our lunch hour if I went into the lunch room to view any TV, there would be Chris glue to the tude watching MASH. He would then tell me that he had every episode of MASH and couldn't get tried of watching it. I will miss you my friend. My thoughts and prayers are with his family during this difficult time. God bless you always.

— Cecilia Peraza
September 16, 2008 at 11:20 a.m.

Regrettable I have known Chris for a short period of time, but knowing him has been a positve experience for me. It is easy to see why he had so many friends who really cared for him. I could see how much he loved his family and how important they were to him.

He will be dearly missed, but never forgotten by all those who were influenced by his presence and caring personality.

— Bob Frueh
September 16, 2008 at 12:46 p.m.

played alot of football and basketball together as kids... the group as mentioned previously....was always together....still cant believe it.... my family and i send our heart felt prayers to all his family and friends.... and so does my brother chris who is overseas with the military right now.... and my parents... he will be missed.

— David Pratt(Gasport)
September 16, 2008 at 2:31 p.m.

Chris was one of the friendliest people I met when I first moved here, three years ago. In a short time, he became one of my favorite people on the volleyball court, and was always smiling. Chris was the model of living a compassionate life, and we lost one of the good ones with his passing.

Chris may be missed, but his legacy and memory will live on.

— Chris Michaels
September 16, 2008 at 3:45 p.m.

When I think back to Chris's childhood there is a memory that stands out from the rest. I remember one early morning back in the old Market street home in Lockport, I was awakened by someone pretending to be a rock star. Chris was outside on a small hill overlooking the neighbor's driveway, singing (or at least attempting to sing) 'Hot Blooded' by Foreigner. He had a piece of wood in his hands that he was using for his guitar and he kept singing the same words over and over again, probably because he didn't know the rest of them. I'm not sure how old he was at the time, 20 or 21, ha ha just kidding, I believe he was around 8 or 9 years old. I remember the camping trips we went on with Chris's family and Grandma down at Indian Falls Lake. Taking in all the fun activities that campers do plus playing with the toy army men; taking sides and using pebbles to knock down the opponent's men.
As time has passed we had gotten older, but still remained close along with your brothers and cousins always looking forward to the family gatherings. I especially looked forward to the pick-up basketball games at your parents place. You were pretty darn good, but I have to admit I would let you win just so you would think you were better than the old man, ha ha!!!
Can't forget all those 4th of July parties and all the good times we all had at them through rain or shine or wind or snow or all of the above! The football, kickball and volleyball games were always a blast when you were there. Oh and the pick-up football games at Ma's place at Christmas too. And don't forget that magical night around the dinner table with, ah yes, the fart tape. Boy that was a Christmas to remember.
There will always be an empty spot on those playing fields and in my heart for you. You were more like a brother to me. I can't even begin to think about how much I will miss you.
Sharon, Samantha, Katie, May God give you strength through these difficult times. We are so blessed to have you in our family.
Chris, my nephew, my brother, my good friend, thanks for all the wonderful memories. God bless.

— Uncle Doug Griffith(Middleport)
September 16, 2008 at 5:37 p.m.

Our hearts and thoughts are with Roy and Donna, Shawn and family, we love having you apart of our daily routine like family. We know from experience how tragedy feels, and life is never the same after that day, hopefully the memories will help you through this horrible time. all our love and prayers to you and Sharon and the Girls.

— Dawn & Eric Greenlief(Gasport,NY)
September 16, 2008 at 6:26 p.m.

I worked with Chris at Adelphia. He always had a smile on his face and had a great sense of humor. Everybody loved him he was a great guy. Our prayers are with Sharon and the girls. God will sustain you.

— David Vickery (Thousand Oaks, CA)
September 16, 2008 at 9:44 p.m.

I have been heart broken and depressed since I heard the news early on Saturday morning. My family and Sharon's family have been great friends going back to the early 70's. Needless to say, Sharon and I have seen each other through many ups and downs over the years. But when she married Chris last year, Sharon and Chris glowed and I couldn't have been happier. I too knew Chris when he was introduced as a "friend" and oh how he turned out to be so much more than that. Sharon, Katie and Sam, I will be on a plane the day after tomorrow and I'll be there to give you all a hug in person. I wish there was the perfect prayer or saying for a time like this. However, the entire situation has left me utterly speechless. From reading some of the the other comments from Chris' aquaintances, friends and family, I regret that I wasn't able to spend more time getting to know him. I guess that's just a result of living 1/2 a country away. However, I stumbled across this website and I've been sitting here for over an hour reading, laughing, smiling & crying, but getting to experience a side of Chris that I never had the pleasure of knowing.

I will see you and your family(ies), along with mine, soon. Lots of Love. XO

— Kathy Weeks (Pflomm)-Denver, CO
September 16, 2008 at 10:17 p.m.

I was very sad to hear the news today. It had been quite a while since I had talked with Chris, but a ton of memories came rushing back to me as I read these comments. I will forever remember Chris as a truly nice guy with a positive vibe and a comical spirit. I will miss him. I wish the very best for his family in this difficult time.

— R. Everly (Temecula CA)
September 16, 2008 at 10:50 p.m.

Chris our friend and neighbor

Sharon worked with me at Adelphia and put in for a supervisor position she was competing with someone coming back to Adelphia that was Chris. That would be the first and last time they competed. Soon after you two became a team forever. It was meant to be. You were a team in life so happy together.
Sharon was also our neighbor a single mom with twin teenage girls then one day Chris came to have dinner with Sharon and the girls and the team became a family. They were meant to be. Sammie and Katie grew to love Chris and respect him as a Dad. He provided them all that anyone would want in a Dad. He worked so hard with love on remodeling their home to make it more comfortable for his family. A family meant to be. So much Love.
Sherry and I so enjoyed Chris's humor those one liners yelled across the street made us laugh so. Your kidding about that 'damn peach Tree' which you threaten to chop down but would kill anyone that hurt it. We will miss your tinkering in the garage. Making that lawn mower rise from the dead patching it together!the small things that fill lives.
Jason from across the street used you as an alarm clock. Your morning ritual of making your coffee at the kitchen window at exactly 5:30am signaled him it was time to get dressed.
Penny, Sandy and Terri enjoyed your teasing you always had a smile and a joke for them. Penny started each morning with a chat at the platform.
To expand on a earlier story that fateful morning Chris kidded Sherry's sister Penney at the Train platform about the sweater she wore. He told Penny about how much he loved the cold how he would get up in the morning turn on all the fans and open the windows. He would get it so cold in the house that Sharon would get up and dress in layers to keep warm. Penney commented on how Sharon would dress so Chris could have it the way he liked it. Penney said 'Look Chris what she does for you!thats love'. He looked at her with a big smile and said as he boarded the train! 'I know.'
Chris be at peace knowing how much you are loved by your friends and most of all your family we will watch over your family!. until we meet again!

— Craig, Sherry, RJ & Chris
September 16, 2008 at 11:22 p.m.

I cannot believe you are gone chris, but i know you are watching over all of us. Sharon and the girls will always be in my prayers. You were always the jokester at Adelphia and played several pranks on me. But I got you back when I took you to lunch and told the restaurant it was our anniversary. The look on your face when they sang happy anniversary to us was I said "got you". Lynne even had baloons at your desk that said happpy anniversary. You were a true friend who was never forgotten even though I left Adelphia and moved to Missouri.
I know we will meet until then, goodbye my friend

— mary hunn lissak
September 17, 2008 at 9:30 a.m.

Chris made the daily reporting of workers compensation enjoyable. I had the privilage of speaking with Chris on a daily basis to review claims. Often the call would last 15-20 min because after we would discuss business which took about 3-5min we would talk about life. Chris and I spoke that Friday morning and I did not know than that it would be the last. I wished him a great weekend and said I would talk to him Monday I was sure, we both laughed. My thoughts are with his family and close friends during this tough time. I will miss my daily calls with Chris. I am glad to have known him and be able to call him a co-worker and friend.

— Melissa Combs - ARAMARK
September 17, 2008 at 9:32 a.m.

I never met Chris, I don't know Sharon, or the girls, but I do know the man that sat next to Chris on that Friday. My co-workers brother-in-law got off the train at Chatsworth & is in mourning for his "train family", barely being able to speak of the ride home that day. He did however share something with his family on Sun. He said that he & Chris had a great converation on the ride to Chatsworth (along with another victim), laughing, sharing a couple stories about their families. Upon exiting the train, they shook hands bid each other a good weekend & Chris' last words were "I will, can't wait to get home to my wife & spend the weekend with our twin daughters". It wasn't until I read about Chris here, did I realize that it is the same man that my friend sat next to.

I thought it may help a little to know that just moments before the accident, you, Sharon, & your girls where what he was talking about.

I too knew a victim on the train & upon attending his services tonight will say a prayer for your family & all of those lost that day.

Peace be with you.

— Anonymous
September 17, 2008 at 10:07 a.m.

Sharon and Family,
We never had the honor of meeting Chris but can see how much he was loved and will be missed by all. Chris is watching over you and sending you his love and light... Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

— Cyndee & Norm McDaniel
September 17, 2008 at 10:18 a.m.

Chris, I will never forget you.
Always smileing ,
Always happy,
Always with your coffee in hand,
Always with your god given quick witt,
Always looking out for us, as co-workers and as freinds.
My thoughts and prayers are with all who were blessed to be a part of your life and loved you.
Sharon, Sammie and Katie may god comfort you and your family at this difficult time.

— Nancy Suarez
September 17, 2008 at 10:58 a.m.

I did not know Christopher but I do know the Aikins family in WNY. Knowing Roy, his father in particular as well as his brother Shaun, what a loss. It is not only a loss for the family but to all who knew him. After reading all these memories that others have shared I know that Christopher had to be a blessing to others as his family has been to us. To Donna Aiken, please know that the church I serve in Holley, NY will be praying for you and yours. Everythhing that could be said to you with sorrow I am sure has alrady been said but I too must add how sorry my wife and I are for all of you. God's blessing, Rev Tom and Kathleen Modd

— Reverend Tom Modd
September 17, 2008 at 12:31 p.m.

Chris you are so missed! Your smile, you sense of humor, your laughter, your love for life! We are all better people for having you in our lives. You truly placed an impression on all our hearts. Thank you for making Sharon so happy. You were her best friend and soul mate. Watch over her and give her the strength from above to continue to move forward during this most difficult time.

Until we meet again at the gates of heaven.
We love you and miss you!

Your friends,
Juan Carlos, Pilar, Arianna, Sophia, Olivia and Isabella Velasquez

— Juan Carlos, Pilar and Girls
September 17, 2008 at 12:43 p.m.

Chris!our son who has left us so unexpectedly and left an enormous hole in all of our hearts. You were my first born, so small, so perfect, such tiny fingers and toes that amazed me. Such a miracle. We had such great memories of you growing up, and some really funny things you would pull when you got older, things that made us laugh. You loved to fish along the Erie Canal, growing up and living along that waterway all of your first 17 years. You grew to love the out of doors and appreciate nature at its best and worst. I know how you loved the thunderstorms here in New York as after moving to California you found it to be less of an occurrence there. There are so many funny things you did and said I can't even remember them all but as our family sits together we will be remembering them again and again and laughing as you would want us to. I can still hear your voice, and it will NEVER leave my mind, your imitation of me when I would react to your dad's driving and let out a shrieking "DEARRRR" I will always think of that and laugh. What can I say, except after all these years of your struggles you had FINALLY found yourself, finally had true happiness, finally figured out why you were here on earth. You got your children, and even though they might not have been biologically yours, they were as far as you were concerned, YOURS to care for and love like your own. You and Sharon were so very happy together, truly a perfect match and had so much to look forward to. We were so proud of you, your accomplishments, your going back to school to get that degree you had never been able to do before and most of all setting a great example for your twin step daughters. Dad and I were so proud of you, all you had accomplished. We didn't worry about you anymore, you had made it. You had grown into that man all parents wish for their kids. The many birthday cards you have sent over the years, it was so obvious you had taken so much time to pick them out, they had said so much, and always and most importantly the most beautiful comments you wrote on the bottom of how much we meant to you and how much dad had made such an impression on you and given you so much as you grew up. I will NEVER loose those cards, they will always be ours to keep, we will cherish them FOREVER. My hope is I will see you again, and I know you are making everyone laugh where you are now. As I stand here in California looking at the beautiful mountains behind us here, we know you are here also with us and always will be, deep in our hearts.
To all of those of you who have written to this website, his dad and I can't tell you enough how very much your messages have helped us through this most difficult time in our lives. Friends, family, strangers alike. Thanks to so many for all your love and prayers.
Chris's mom and dad

— mom
September 17, 2008 at 2:23 p.m.

Sue and I have only had the opportunity of getting to know Chris since last October, when we met at his wedding to Sharon. We have been close friends with Sharon's family for the better part of 35+ years. Although we have gotten together with Chris and Sharon only a few times since last October, those times together were very meaningful. It became quite obvious that Chris was that very special person, and that he and Sharon were truely meant for each other, and very much in love. After reading all the "memories" from family and friends, who have had the good fortune to really get to know and enjoy Chris, we feel that we have come to know him so much more, in these past few days. We wish we had the opportunity to get to know him even better. We take so many things in life for granted, that when one of those precious things is taken from us, we cannot accept, much less understand, WHY ???? It just seems that, at times, LIFE is not JUST nor FAIR. We should vow to never take life for granted, for we never know what tomorrow brings. Chris, you have given us a valuable lesson to be learned, and you will forever be in our minds and hearts. Sharon, Sam and Katie you will always be in our thoughts and prayers. May Chris be close by to help guide you through these trying times ahead. GOD BLESS....

— Bob & Sue Pflomm
September 17, 2008 at 5:45 p.m.

I worked with Chris for years at TCI / Adelphia, and I played softball with him for years, also. He was the type of person that I've always looked forward to being around, whether it's for work or play. Yes, he was a kind and sincere friend, who was usually upbeat and engaging, but I'll always remember the fact that we were usually smart-asses with one another, with neither of us taking offense to the biting wit and jabs that we would direct at one another. It was a good-natured game that we both enjoyed, and he was a unique individual who obviously touched many lives.
My thoughts and prayers go out to all who mourn his loss, as he was taken much too soon...

— Don Tiney
September 17, 2008 at 10:22 p.m.

My dear brother, I'm at such a loss for words. It's amazing all of the memories that are coming back to me, now that that is all I have of you. I can't help but remember and admire the fierce independence and fearlessness that you always seemed to have. You probably didn't know it, but those were good traits for a younger brother to see. Thank you for that.
I remember you beating my ass up, as every older brother should. Hitting your poor innocent brothers and cousins with punishing snowballs, rocks, black walnuts, and even a dirt clod with a rock in it. I still have a large scar on the back of my head from that one... Strange thing to remember you by, but its as good as any, and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
I remember running away with you a couple of times. Walking from Lockport all the way to Gasport on the railroad tracks. Wow, we were so dumb, our lives were perfect and we had the greatest parents, we just didn't know it.
I remember visiting you in California when I was 17, I think that that was the first time I had ever eaten fake Cheerious, much less been away from our parents. Wow, what a great time I had, and what an eye opener. I remember buying a fake Nike (swoosh going the wrong way) tank top at the Chino Market, and then climbing the cliffs at the beach.
I remember visiting you and Sandy when you lived in Camrillo, and how that awesome stray cat (later named Merlot?) came into the sliding glass door in the middle of the night and set up camp next to me in the living room.
I remember the past year and a half when Jen and I got to see you, Sharon, and the girls at Christmas, then in February (Palm Springs), and then again in July. You were so happy, and it made us so happy to be with you. It was like you had found a new foothold on the world, and all was right. I can see from all of the comments that I wasn't wrong.
I think, that best of all (and most selfishly), I remember when you came out for a long weekend in early December. After so many years of searching, we were both really happy and content in our lives. I was so proud and happy for you. We got to spend a couple of days doing cool brother stuff (The Mutter Museum, Pay-Per-View Boxing, Cheesesteaks), and there was no weight of stress or worry. It was just us having a good time.
I'm so proud that you were my brother. I am so proud that you made so many other people happy. And I'm so sad because you are gone.
I know that we didn't talk as much as we should have over the years, but I know that it's going to be a difficult life without you in it. Not only for me, but for all of the people who knew and loved you.
Soon I will flying out to see you off, and I think that I'm going to download some bad Aerosmith so that I can listen to it and remember driving 100MPH down Telegraph rd. in the back seat of your car. What a cool brother you were. I love you.

— Heath
September 17, 2008 at 10:53 p.m.

You will be surely missed. My thoughts go out to your family during this difficult time.

— chelsie
September 18, 2008 at 6:10 a.m.

I came to know Chris through my then girlfiend and eventual bride, Amy. Chris was a part of a wonderful network of friends that my wife had known for years. They had wonderful holiday and vacation gatherings that I was fortunate to marry into! I am a rather shy person and it is difficult for me to get to know people. Chris was one of those guys that you immediately liked. He made you feel comfortable even though he was not a bubbly, out-going guy. While he was not a man of many words, the words he did say made you smile or laugh and most importantly for an awkward guy, made you feel accepted and welcomed. I think about him every day and miss him. My #1 regret is that I won't have more opportunites in this lifetime to get to know him even better. ...being with Chris was truly memorable...always!

— David Horton
September 18, 2008 at 11:33 a.m.

Chris your smile, your laughter, your great sense of humor, your love for the Buffalo Bills (even though I'm a New York Giants fan)all those wonderful memories with you at Adelphia and Ontario will always be in my heart! YOU, will always be in my heart. With my deepest respect and sympathy ... Good Bye my DEAR friend...

— Karen Sevillano
September 18, 2008 at 1:41 p.m.

Pemo... You were my first real friend. When we moved to gasport right next to you, I remember my mom dragging me out to the back to meet the neighbors. Your mom was holding Shaun & you were standing close to your mom, sucking your thumb. I thought youd never stop doing that! Remember playing kick ball with Jeff & he nailed the ball so hard that it hit me in my "then budding" chest? That hurt! You came to my rescue, made sure I was ok, then we finished the game. Remember standing up on the canal bank chucking stones across? I think you were just showing off. And the CARP we caught out of the canal. Ick! Bridge jumping. Not my forte. My dad started emailing me his memories today. I remember them all too well. All of us - like friggin 15 people around one little campfire behind my house. Drinking. Laughing. The gaseous aromas coming out of your ass & everyone fleeing for cover because we were afraid of the gas hitting the fire & making us all explode... your crappy smirks - we always knew when to run because of that smirk of yours! Going drinking in Canada. Mikey throwing up in his own car in the back seat with Big ol' Billy COWERING in the corner! (Glad it wasn't me that had to clean it up.) OMG the FART TAPE! All of you boys - all of my boys - I miss so much of all of that. Yeah - the snowballs dipped in water - ARGH! You, Doug, Bill & me sprawled out in my living room watching movies. Who's next for a back rub? Niagara Falls. I'm suprised we didn't wear a path in the road up there! I loved our private chats too. You always looked out for me as one of my big brothers. And you always knew when I need to talk. You fixed things for me. I never thanked you. So, Thank You. You always laughed the hardest when I popped out with "OH MY GARAGE!". I remember you asking me to be your substitute when you couldn't deliver the newspapers. I HATED DOING THAT! But I did it because it was for you. I think when I was like 7 or 8, I had a small crush on you. That didn't last long. Sorry. "Hey Chris, Who's that girl with you?" ... "That's no girl, that's my sister." I loved it when you said that! I would love to go back & record evry moment so that I always have them with me. There is so much more with you & the boys (Doug, Rich, Bill, Chrip P., Tony White, Rob Berry - everyone) that I remember but I just can't do it. The more I reminisce, the more saddened I become. The tears are heavy, as is my heart. I have always loved you - I always will. There is a greater plan for each of us & I expect that when my time comes, you will be waiting for me to let me know what it is. I also expect that before you tell me, you will first lick my face (dammit) then start with a dirty joke. Yup. That would be you. Just make sure it's not too stinky - I don't want to eat any! (Thumb on the forehead!)
I love you, honey. You will always keep that special spot in my heart that you have always held. My friend. My comrade. My boy. Peace my brother.
Love always, 'Nette

— 'Nette (Lynette Trombley-Wigington) - Loveland, CO
September 18, 2008 at 9:30 p.m.

Chris touched many lives. You will be missed and your life celebrated.

— Donna Winfrey
September 18, 2008 at 10:16 p.m.

i know exactly how you feel. my father also passed in that accident. HUGS

— Mey Chao
September 19, 2008 at 9:22 a.m.

I did not know Chris personally, but I know his lovely wife Sharon, who is a wonderful human being and loved Chris with all her soul.

In these most difficult of times, I would like to extend my deepest condolences to his wonderful wife Sharon, and Chris' entire family and friends.

I pray for strength, courage and love for everyone impacted by the passing of Chris.

Sharon, Katie, and Sammie -- I am so deeply, deeply sorry. This tragedy could not have happened to a nicer or kinder family. We don't know why these things happen; it's not fair at all. I hope you can find peace with your great friends, Lara and Ed, Monica, Pilar, George and all the others who love you so much.

Today's memorial service was a beautiful reminder to those who knew Chris (and those of who didn't), what a good-natured and loving man he was. What a optimistic view of life he had, and how he grew to be so happy in his last years. I am sorry that I did not know him.

God bless you all. We love you Sharon.

— Bibi Wardak
September 20, 2008 at 9:22 p.m.

Although I never met Chris, I mourn his death. Chris's brother, Garrett Berry is very near and dear to my heart and I know how Garrett mourns the loss of his brother. He is so saddened by the fact that he will never again have the chance to be with, or know better his only brother.
My sincere condolences to Chris's family and friends.
He was obviously very loved and cherished. I wish I could have known him.

— Leslie M
September 21, 2008 at 11:59 a.m.

I dont know you, Chris. I dont know your family but I've read all the messages everyone has left and all the memories and stories from your family, friends and co-workers. I was laughing my head off reading all the fond memories your friends, families and co-workers wrote about you. I realize the kind of a human this man is. That he came from a good close family, like mine, and made me feel like we are all connected as humans through LIFE & LOVE. I just want to tell you that your family, friends, co-workers, and commute friends are in my thoughts and prayers. Nothing, not even death will keep you apart. He seemed like a loving man, who in his short time here on earth gave and received so much love. His friends and family will always celebrate you because I celebrate you and I did not know you. You are so lucky, like me, to have all that in life. Many times people go though life without having any of this or very little of it and from I read his life was Abundant. Its people like this that makes you realize that this world has so much beautiful things to offer. Your family seems very close and with each and every one of you, you will show your family and friends what he taught you. I read this on a card the other day and I remembered it..thinking of you and yours and all the others who lost their loved ones: "Each life is a miracle that comes to this world and leaves it a better place than it was before"...because from what I read he was full of humor, smiles, and most of all LOVE and that alone says so much.

This is for your people Chris: A message from above:
"You are precious to ME. You are honored and I LOVE YOU! ~Isaiah 43:4
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
Anel Azusena

— Anel, City of Angeles, (L.A.) California
September 24, 2008 at 1:15 p.m.

Sharon, Katie, Sammie I am so sorry, and my family prays for all of you and Chris.
I met Chris at Adelphia. I really loved Chris as a Boss and as a friend. He made work alot easyer for all who worked under him. Chris had a way of helping me realize things when I had a bad day at work or at home. He would always say something that would make me laugh. I loved talking to him about fishing and hunting. He told me that an uncle or his grandpa havested a deer that was so big they named the deer herkamur. Some how when we chatted we always brought up that deer. I alway bugged him to get me a picture of the deer. I am so happy to have known Chris and to have had him in my life as a friend and co-worker. Chris will always be in my memories I will never forgt you Chris.

Al Magallanes and Family Yolanda, Melinda and Andrew
Valencia, Ca.

— Al Magallanes
September 24, 2008 at 7:20 p.m.

I read this yesterday and thought I'd share it with you:

To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, ""I welcome you.""

It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......""My day was not in vain.""
And now I am content....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody LAUGH and smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not're coming here to me.

Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)

~With All the LOVE from me to you.

— Anel Azusena, City of Angels (L.A), California
September 26, 2008 at 12:30 p.m.

Though we all may have lost someone who is a big part of our lives and our hearts and we are not able to replace or fill that emptyness that our love ones have taken with them when they left this world. but i hope that maybe we all can come together and allow each other to come into each others lives since i know that we all share the same pain. when my father passed in that metrolink 2008 crash my life has not been the same and its been very difficult, my father left behind his wife and 5 children and so many grand children, and we all miss and love him so much but talkin about him with my family and remembering all the good times we had with him helps us with our pain of losing him. so i just would like to let you all know i am here if you need to talk or just someone to listen to you. my email is

my hearts and prayers go out to you.

— mey chao
October 1, 2008 at 9:38 a.m.

As I scan my memories of Chris I realize that they are all positive. All happy. All fun. Chris' warm heart and quick smile put everyone at ease. He is missed dearly by everyone that had the good fortune of knowing him.

— Joe Zaremski
October 1, 2008 at 11:30 p.m.

Even now 3 weeks later it just seems so hard to put on paper how much I will miss Chris and let people know what he was about. The way I feel is that no matter what I say it won't be enough to do him justice. Describing Chris he liked things simple but detailed and good. This is what I mean:
-Pizza- pepperoni and cheese only (I don't want any of that other crap on there, why mess with perfection). Simple, but good.
-Coffee black, fresh. Simple, but good.
-Chicken wings (from Buffalo of course) Simple, but good.
-Meat (it better be barbecued- and just right). Simple, but good.
-Family and friends, he wanted to keep good people close, talk about things of substance and 'Da Bills', sports and fun. Simple but good.
The Chris that I remember, I think with pretty much everything, he was like that.
And how was the food good, we would wait and watch him to see the slap to the belly with his flat hand and an extended ahhhhhhhh that sounded like it came from the bottom of his stomach and you knew it was good.

— Doug
October 2, 2008 at 5:17 p.m.

Eulogy at his funeral -
My friend
As far back as I am able to remember you have been a big part of my life. From when we met in 4th grade spending our time sitting on the floor in class drawing pictures day after day during 'free time' we became instant friends. Since 'Mom' Aiken called to tell me that you had past, my head has been swimming with all the memories that we have shared. There is no single person that I was so close to for so long. I have so many childhood memories with you and your family. You would bring me along to a lot of the 'family time' events, the Holidays, the January birthdays, the July 4th 's at Uncle Doug's or whatever was going on, you and ALL your family would always make me feel as if I was another one of the 'gang'. When you were young you were the jokester, the quick wit, the ever wisecracker, which so often landed you into trouble. But, later in life you used those traits to cheer people up, make people comfortable and bring levity to tough situations. In high school it was the 'FAB 5'. You, Chris Pratt, Rich, Bill and myself, we went through a lot together, experienced all of life's trials and emotions and we all just wanted to find our place in the world. Today I speak for the 4 of us that we will all miss you, but never forget you.
After high school how you convinced me to move to California I will never know. But we jam packed that 5x8 trailer and off we went. And for the next 5 years I felt like we were an old married couple, never really fighting and doing everything together except when you were with Sandy. And when you moved back to Gasport I felt like we got a divorce, and I missed my friend. I was happy for you knowing you were around family and old friends.
We kept in touch when we could, and often I would find myself thinking of you. As time went by you called to tell me that you had met Sharon and you told me about the girls I could hear the excitement in your voice. When you came out to Vegas and Elizabeth and I got a chance to meet Sharon, Katie and Sam it was easy to see where this was headed. To see how happy you were and that sparkle in your eyes when you were talking about the girls brought peace to my heart knowing you had finally found your way.

— Doug
October 2, 2008 at 5:19 p.m.

Dearest Sharon, girls, Mr. & Mrs. Aiken & family,

Please accept my deepest sympathy and prayers to all of you. Sharon, throughout the last year, the stories you have shared about your wonderful husband Chris, I feel I got a small glimse of how much Chris loved you, the girls and his those monthly trips of picking Kathy & I up from the Chatsworth station. Ryan & Kelly, send their sympathies too, as we all grieve Walt's passing alongside Chris. We now have comfort knowing they are in Heaven together...

Respectfully, Cheryl

— Cheryl Edmond
October 4, 2008 at 4:18 p.m.

To the parents of Christopher Aiken. Thank you for the comment on my father's page. My thoughts are with you and your family at this terrbile time. Stay strong!

Diane Adair (Daughter of Alan Buckley)

— Diane Adair
October 5, 2008 at 8:23 p.m.

It is hard to believe that it has been a month. I read these notes and it brings me closer to you. Your desk untouched. I miss you my friend... I really miss you

— Monica
October 14, 2008 at 2:10 p.m.

It has been half a life time, but remember you like yesterday. My deepest condolences to your family.

— Michael Sheehan - Denver, CO
October 18, 2008 at 6:47 p.m.

Chris, I was just thinking about you the other day. I saw the most perfect apron for you in a catalogue. It said BBQ Master...I couldn't believe it. It made me think about the last time I saw you...a week or so before the accident. You had us over for Sharon's birthday and you grilled chicken and sausages on your new BBQ. You came over to check how my food took so much pride in your BBQ! My friend, that chicken was grilled perfectly!

— Stacey
November 1, 2008 at 11:46 a.m.

My cousin Chris,
my memories of You were so long ago, helping you learn to
walk was and will alway's be one of the highlights of my life. I wish I had more time with you, but the time I had I will never forget.Yourself and Mel were just to much fun.I will miss you and remember you alway's

To Donna and Roy,
I can't imagine your pain, but know that I love you and my prayers are with you alway's

to Sharon,Samantha and Katie,
Though we have not met I feel like I know you, through my Mom. I will pray for you all and hope that somehow you may find peace in all of this, may God bless.

-Love to all-
Rob&Deann& family XOXO

— Rob
December 14, 2008 at 6:11 p.m.

You are not forgotten.

— Monica lichtenstein
June 29, 2009 at 11:02 p.m.

To our Beloved Son Chris, It is fast approaching a year since you left us. In so many ways it gets more difficult as the year anniversary gets closer. I know our lives will forever be changed with the loss of you and even though we have become so close to your family and may never have gotten to know them as we have, we still wish you were here with us. Your step daughters have grown into wonderful girls, so compassionate and thoughtful. How proud you would have been of them. And to your honor they still chose to have your name, something you would have done if not for Sept. 12, 2008. We will be there Sept. 12, 2009, in California to celebrate your life and those who also so tragically died that day. It is going to be a very difficult time for us, I know that, but we were so glad it worked out so we could be there. My hope is there in heaven you are enjoying those relatives you never got to know and enjoying those you did know even more. I still hear your voice when your dad scares me with his driving and your imitation of me yelling "DEARRRRRRRRR" as I reach for the handle and I laugh to myself as I always got such a kick out of your sense of humor. We all love you with all our hearts, miss you more than words can express and pray we will see you again. Love, your mom

— Donna Aiken
August 15, 2009 at 5:58 p.m.

Chris was a really sweet guy and a great neighbor, he made Sharon and the girls so happy. I know that he will always be looking out for them. My heart goes out to everyone that is still missing him.

— Stephanie Betancourt
February 17, 2011 at 7:21 p.m.

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