I looked him straight in the eye and asked him, 'You are telling me that you are willing to die for this country?’ He stood up and said, ‘Yes, mom. Either you sign this or I will sign up when I am 18.’ I decided to support him. I’ll never forget that day.
    — Brenda Pallares, mother

    Pallares had talked about becoming a police officer or perhaps going into journalism because he loved to write. He had never indicated an interest in the military, and at first his mother was not prepared to give permission for her oldest child to join before the age of 18. He died Oct. 23 in the Ghazni province of Afghanistan when insurgents attacked his unit with an improvised explosive device. It was five days before his 20th birthday.
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    41 memories of Ronnie J. Pallares

    you will be miss. you are love by the family you left behind. but we will not forget you.

    — Linda Hurtado
    October 25, 2010 at 1:51 p.m.

    My beautiful nephew so much full of life your wonderful smile o how i going to miss you greatly Ronnie you left too soon. I'm so proud of the young man you were. I love you. The gap I feel in my heart is so empty for your presence.
    Love your Tia E.

    — Edith Tobar
    October 25, 2010 at 1:53 p.m.

    Ronnie was always an enthusiastic, respectful young man. My memories of him are few and fond. It's tragic that this war has taken yet another life from this country, with little justification.

    — Richard Greer
    October 25, 2010 at 2:48 p.m.

    Ronnie i am so glad i got the chance to know u, growing up with you was a blessing! ill see u wednedsay and thursday! happy early birthday! I LOVE U!

    — Denise Braojos
    October 25, 2010 at 3:39 p.m.

    Ronnie, I'll never forget your smile! You were loved by so many. Thank you for all the laughs we shared. May you rest in peace.

    — Serina Perez
    October 25, 2010 at 4:15 p.m.

    Ronnie, the last time I saw you, you were a toddler, your cousin Jeremey Arbiso is my son....I have to thank you, for the Hero you are, and all others who have given their ALL for this great country of ours. I now pray for your family and friends, and that YOU may now rest in Peace. ......Raulie

    — Raulie Arbiso
    October 25, 2010 at 7:34 p.m.

    We can not believe this pumpkin. We had many good times together. You will be greatly missed by everyone.We love you very much and you will always have a special place in our hearts!!!!xoxox

    Love,
    Your Sister Priscilla and Cousin Nina

    — Priscilla & Nina Pallares
    October 25, 2010 at 8:45 p.m.

    OMG Ronnie i can not believe yu are gone..yu had helped me with so much in the past and im sorry that i let us go on for as long as we did without ever talking. You were an amazing friend to me and i will never forget yu..i still have all the raps yu use to write to me on myspace to cheer me up or just to be the big dork that yu are...i love yu so much and i kno for a fact that yu are in a much better place..my prayers go out to yur entire family and to yur girlfriend...i love yu ronnie!!

    — Coral Scott
    October 25, 2010 at 9:24 p.m.

    Ronnie, i will never forget you , you're a Brave guy who i respect and honor for serving our country.I'm glad that i got the chance to get to know you . i want you to know that you were the one who always brought a smile to vanessa's face. That girl loves you so much and i know you loved her just as much. Thank you so much for making her the happiest girl . She still needs you and i know you'll be there for her every step of the way. Her guardian angel, Please continue to guide her and continue loving her even more and visting her i know that she will love that. Ronnie i know your in a better place but your'e still missed very much but i know your looking down at us smiling and guiding us all . may you rest in peace ronnie.

    — Natalie Espinosa
    October 25, 2010 at 9:37 p.m.

    Ronnie, you were a special type of friend; someone who always put others needs before yours, and you've always been brave. Thank you for what you have done not only in Afghanistan, but also back home with all of your friends and family. May you rest in peace until God decides to send me to the better place as well. You may have lost the battle, but you definitely won the war. May you rest in peace, and I'll always love you and miss you.

    — Chelsea Brandler
    October 25, 2010 at 9:47 p.m.

    You will forever be missed Ronnie, you were a great friend and was always in a good mood. I have a lot of good memories about you and those will never go away. I thank you for being my friend and for being a hero that everyone can look up to. You're a true hero and I will always miss you. Rest In Peace my friend.

    — Josh Russo
    October 25, 2010 at 10:19 p.m.

    Ronnie You Will Be Forever Missed.
    NeverWillIForgetYou :[

    — Kassandra J.
    October 25, 2010 at 10:33 p.m.

    I will never forget you! Thank you for everything you did for my husband! I am forever grateful to have known you!

    — Erica Vasquez
    October 26, 2010 at 1:26 a.m.

    You touched so many lives with your beautiful smile, always putting others before yourself even in high school you would make it your goal to get others to smile. We will never forget you, please watch over all of us! We love and miss you!

    — Stephanie Green
    October 26, 2010 at 4:14 a.m.

    Ronnie, my best friend, i will forever be thankful for Justin introducing you to me. From the moment we met i felt so close to you, you became my best friend so fast and i enhoyed every memory i have with you. I remember the first time i talked to you was outside of school, when your mom drove me you and justin to homecoming sophomore year. the whole ride i couldnt stop laughing and from then on we clicked. There were so many times i wanted punch you for the things you did, your crazy ass ideas, and then there were others where i just wanted to hug you and you would fix all my problems. I called you my brother because thats the way i saw you. I knew you always had my back and if i needed you you would be there in a heartbeat. I remember the first basketball game i went to at alta loma with you, and bugged you the whole time for you to explain what the hell was going on, you just laughed at me and said, "ashlee you really need to get with the sport of basketball you dont know what you are missing out on." i thought you were crazy! you the only boy my dad ever trusted me going anywhere with. ronnie i miss you so much and it hurts that you are gone, ive lost my best friend. but please know that i am here for vanessa every step. ive been taking care of her and i wont stop until the end. it kills me to see her the way she is, but its cause she loves you so much, you guys had so many plans together. Please watch over all of us. we need you! i love you ronnie!

    — Ashlee Sanchez
    October 26, 2010 at 6:51 a.m.

    Im going to miss you so much cousin. i wish we could have got to hang out like we used to back in the day. me and you and danny ray. im sure you remember. i love you with all my heart. you are a TRUE AMERICAN HERO! I WILL NEVER FORGET WHAT YOU HAVE DONE FOR ALL OF US!

    — Peter Melendres II
    October 26, 2010 at 11:39 a.m.

    Ok ronnie so I was driving home, well to vanessas this morning and I was thinking of so many memories we shared together. Remember when you came and rescued me from the table at kingsball. Ugh I didn't wanna sit there anymore and not be dancing so I looked at you and right then you texted me and said what's wrong why aren't you out here dancing and I texted you back and said save me... haha next thing I know you come to the table and you tell my date hey I'm gonna borrow her for awhile lol so we went out and danced and you said now you owe me big time I just smiled at you and said ok sounds like a deal... I used to love when you smiled and laughed you made my day even when I was having the worst day ever. Ronnie I miss you so much you truly were my brother and idk how life is going to be now. We go to your flag every night and I just sit there and your face just pops in my head as I stare at the candles. Memories flood through my head and they don't stop. I was really looking forward to you coming home the cabin trip was going to be so much fun. Ronnie please be here for vanessa she needs you and is lost without you. I'm trying to do my best to be strong and be by her side but at times its difficult because I hate seeing her like this. She needs to one person she truly loved with all her mind body and soul. Please just comfort her heart and somehow let her know that you are there with her. She needs to feel your presence and your love in her heart. Ronnie continue to watch over us and keep us strong. I love you and miss you best friend.

    — ashlee sanche
    October 27, 2010 at 8:59 a.m.

    even though i did not know him personally he has given the ultimate sacrifice. and for that i would like to say thanks fellow service member and Rancho Cucamongan.

    — chuck
    October 27, 2010 at 9:14 a.m.

    Ronnie, Thank you. To Brenda and family, you are in my daily thoughts and prayers. Ronnie was a wonderful friend and I thank God for having him in my life. As I enter the military he will forever be on my mind.

    — Becca
    October 27, 2010 at 12:01 p.m.

    I love you brother, I'll never forget you!

    — Brianna aguayo
    October 27, 2010 at 12:04 p.m.

    Dearest Ronnie,

    You are truly a hero to me and to all of us. You fought a war and it took your young soul! The pain and sorrow is more than anyone can bare… but you a proud soldier fought without any hesitation! We as Americans should be proud of you and many like you that have laid down their lives to give us the peace and hope for our future....

    You now sit at side of God as many family members who have gone before you… I know you were not alone when God open his doors to you… Your family and friends were there to greet you… You now have no worries and are free to smile upon us...

    You’re Mom, dad, step-dad, grandparents, brothers, sisters and the rest of the family will always have emptiness in their hearts… We will all miss you… May you lay in peace in the palms of Gods hands…. We love you…

    “YOU ARE OUR HERO"

    — Lorraine
    October 27, 2010 at 4:25 p.m.

    Ronnie! you were such an amazing person. it kills me to know i wont be able to see you but then i just think of all our memories together. yu really were one of my best friends. you were always there for me whenever i needed you. your smile is forever imprinted in my memories. yu were always smiling and i loved it. i'll always miss you ronnie. i love you! rest in peace. </3

    — Erika Merida
    October 27, 2010 at 9:21 p.m.

    Ronnie i miss u so much i remember playing football with u at bear gulch and always looking up to you. you were a great friend and i truly miss you thanks for what you did for this country.

    — Matthew Van vonderen
    October 28, 2010 at 4:38 p.m.

    ronnie! thank u brotha. not just for your service to the country that i get 2 live free in. but for the memories on the football feild, p.e,at a party, an many others. i wasnt as close as others 2 u. but i was close to certain ones who u touched. an thank u for that. please shine your light on those..give them the strength to move on..they will never forget u. neither will i..one in the air for u freind.

    — Tristen braden
    October 28, 2010 at 11:41 p.m.

    You are still loved by your family and there is a special place in their hearts just for you<3 thank you for serving

    — Susie
    October 30, 2010 at 8:57 a.m.

    R.I.P. Mr. Pallares. I never had the honor to meet you, but I would like to thank you for protecting our country. You will be greatly missed.

    — CMS Cougar
    October 31, 2010 at 5:02 p.m.

    RIP Ronnie. You will always be remembered!
    Thank you for serving our country!
    ...To his family, stay strong, without all your support he would have not gotten as far as he did. He is in a better place now and only god knows why things happen the way they do. Everything happens for a reason.
    Much Love and respect, god bless you all.
    There's strong, then there's ARMY STRONG!

    — Laurie G. Flores
    November 3, 2010 at 7:16 p.m.

    I don't even know you Ronnie but I've been reading about you in the local newspaper and I can't get you or your family out of my mind. I am humbled by your gift you & your family gave to Our Country and I feel to me personally. No words will ever convey how grateful I am to you & your family. So I will pray for you & your family and hope God's love will comfort your family and that you are looking down at them with all the love I know you had inside you for them and your Country. God Bless Mrs. Rochelle Howell

    — Rochelle Howell
    November 5, 2010 at 11:29 a.m.

    Ronnie, I am finally coming to terms with the fact that this is real. Thank you so much for being Ronnie. Your friendship really touched me. I could never forget you.

    — Jordan Smith
    November 6, 2010 at 4:30 p.m.

    Thank you first of all, for being a real man. Thank you for believing in yourself and in this country. Thank you for being my son's friend, brother and most of all, thank you for your service. Cruz's father.

    — Juan Vasquez
    November 20, 2010 at 1:13 a.m.

    your amazing<33
    R.I.P Ronnie:(

    — Heather
    December 3, 2010 at 11:08 a.m.

    I stumbled upon this feature on the LA time site, though I don't know this soldier. I thanks him and his family for his service to our country, I'm so sorry for the loss. He's a hero in my book!

    — Kevin Gregory
    December 8, 2010 at 11:41 p.m.

    Ronnie,I married your aunt before you were even born and for the last 20 years I saw you grow up into a strong and confident young man, I was very proud of you when I was told you were going into the military, I often told my wife what a great kid I thought you were but I beleive you were a much greater man and soldier, I will always remember you and be proud of you and the sacrifice you made for my family,
    I'll see you in heaven nephew. love uncle Dave.

    — David Arpajon
    December 13, 2010 at 10:09 a.m.

    I just found out this week about the death of my former neighbor's son and grandson, the little boy I remember who had such a warm and genuine smile, who smiled at everything. Little Ronnie, you were such an angel as a child who grew into a fine young man. Your grandparents I know held you up in the love of the Lord Jesus, in whose arms you will be forever.

    — A.B.
    January 19, 2011 at 12:19 p.m.

    I've been thinking about you a lot lately. All the memories we had will always be in my heart. You were truly one of a kind. Our writing is what bonded us the most. I remember how you use to joke about how you were the Edgar Allan Poe to my Robert Frost. I miss you so much. Each day is just like the last... The pain of losing you still lingers and it always will. Soar up high buddy! I miss you Ronnie. RIP ... TRUE AMERICAN HERO! <3

    — Andria Cabrera
    January 28, 2011 at 11:08 a.m.

    We all miss you... you brought something to 57th that cannot be replaced. You will never be forgotten in our hearts or our memories.

    — drake
    July 4, 2011 at 9:23 p.m.

    We will always love you and remember you as a true American Hero. It is truly an honor and a privledge to have had you in our lives. We will never forget what you did for us and this Country.

    Thank you Ronnie!

    Marce & Tyler

    — Marcella & Tyler Garcia
    September 11, 2011 at 3:22 p.m.

    Can't believe it's going on 1 year that you've been gone. How time has gone by. There's not a day someone don't ask me who you are. Your dog tags are a reminder of a true hero. You are missed by many people you've touched many life's people you never got to meat. I'm very proud to call you my family
    .Angel asked mom why did he have to die? He was very saddened by your passing
    I had no words for him I told him you were his angel now! And god needed you. You are missed and loved by many. You are an American hero!

    — April Angel mia
    October 8, 2011 at 5:37 p.m.

    I want to thank you and your family for your service to our country. I wish I did not have to see your name like this in order to thank you.

    God bless you and your family.

    — Lenora Wood - Tulsa Ok
    November 8, 2011 at 12:34 a.m.

    Ronnie boo! Its a whole year since you've been gone and it hasnt gotten any easier.
    I think back to ur crazy days in high school and in Mr. Lopez class, you made that class so much fun with your jokes and your heart! <3
    Ronnie I miss you greatly!

    — Vanessa
    December 23, 2011 at 3:34 p.m.

    i love you cousin, we will never forget you! you will always be in my heart. Our guardian angel<3 Ill see you again one day! Rest in paradise

    — Reyna Rogers
    January 17, 2013 at 6:05 a.m.

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